Check your wardrobe.  I am not saying to go out and buy skimpy slutty looking clothing but I am saying get rid of the grandma clothes.   Particularly take a look at your bedtime wear.  No more flannel pjs or nightgowns or even big t-shirts with boxers (although if carried properly – can be quite sexy).   To FEEL sexy – wear a tank top with a pair of capri pajama pants at bedtime.  Maybe even a silk or satin cami or baby doll to bed.   Toss those giant sweatshirts and baggy sweatpants!   Instead sport a fashionable t-shirt and yoga pants when you are hanging out on a Saturday morning.

In order to feel good about yourself (first step to feeling sexy) you have to treat yourself well.  Fix your hair and make-up even if you don’t have plans for the day.  Do it for yourself because you always look good.  Do your nails.  Take a massaging shower or soaking bath.   Exercise and eat well.   Many of the comfort foods we turn to when we feel horrible are the same foods that make us feel even worse and fall further into a slump.  Remember this next time you reach for sweets, cakes or chips!   Stop buying them and you won’t be able to turn to them when you are at your weakest.  They are NOT your friend and do NOT provide comfort… just comFAT!

If you want to be sexy ACT SEXY.  How about if you try it for 1 day?  Maybe over time it may just become a habit and you won’t have to read an article about feeling sexy… because you know you ALREADY ARE!!

By: Nicole Dean

Oftentimes we, as women, leave our needs unexpressed and wait for our husbands to just guess what to do. Many men honestly don’t know how to be romantic. And, when they do get up the courage to attempt romance, their efforts may not be expressed in a way that we appreciate or even recognize as romance.

Look how silly this sounds, if your son was attempting algebra and didn’t understand it, you wouldn’t cry because he didn’t love you. As a mom, we’d sit down, and go over it again and again, for as long as it took until he understood. Yet, we expect our husbands to know something that they’ve never been taught. Instead of leaving your man to struggle, show him how to romance you. How will he know what to do if you don’t show him?

So, how can you teach him how to romance you?

1. Be romantic yourself.
If you show him that you value him and love him on a regular basis, instead of expecting him to be the romantic one, he’ll be more receptive to trying it himself. The old saying “You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar” definitely applies. Yelling and crying because he isn’t romantic isn’t exactly going to put him in the lovey mood.

2. Tell him what you like.
Do you enjoy expensive gifts or would you rather have him make something for you? Would you like him to go on walks with you? Give you cut flowers or live plants?

Make a list of every birthday, anniversary and holiday and include ideas for things he can buy or do for you. Set him up to succeed.

3. Learn what he likes.
The same thing stands for him. Know what makes him happy.

Please don’t buy him an expensive gift if he’s the frugal type. He won’t like it.
Don’t take him to a fancy French restaurant if he’s a Burger kind of guy. It’s ok to take him there for your birthday, but don’t take him there for his birthday.
If he loves sports, then go to them with him.

Please initiate romance. So often, women just get more and more resentful that they aren’t feeling romanced and their man has no clue what to do to fix it. There really should be a required romance course before you can get your marriage license. At least that way, men would, at some point in time, learn how to be romantic. Until then, it’s our job to show him just what we want and need to feel special. Now go Romance Your Man!

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Nicole Dean is a contributing author for www.RomanceYourHusband.com – a website dedicated to helping married couples stay friends and to help them remember why they married each other in the first place. Our motto is: If he’s sweet, rub his feet.

Let’s be more feminine…be more sensual…

You know the song by Shania Twain – “Man, I Feel Like a Woman!”?

Sadly, many of us have lost touch with our feminine side and have forgotten how to feel like a woman. Feeling feminine when our lives are so chaotic and everyone demands so much can be a hard task. Working hard, being constantly on the go and having to be strong for the family tends to bring out more of our masculine than feminine side. It is important for a woman not to lose sight of her delicate, intimate, compassionate and sexual side. By being in touch with this more gracious and gentle side, a woman can feel more complete, refreshed and fulfilled.

I firmly believe that when the woman in the house is content and fulfilled, the rest of the household follows. For the nurturing woman who feels that it is selfish to take time for herself, is misinformed. Taking time for you is not a selfish act! By taking care of and loving yourself you can offer more of the fulfilled, happy you to your family. Women tend to give way too much of themselves, willingly robbing from their very essence, all for the good of those they love? So if you are feeling out of sorts with yourself, resentful of your children or family or in a marriage that needs a little refresh pay close attention. Many times these issues can be solved by simply nurturing and getting back in touch with the FEMININE YOU! Think of it as a reboot to your hard drive, returning yourself to its original feminine state.

How can this be obtained?

One way is to allow yourself to get to know and feel comfortable with your body again. Have a peaceful moment with yourself by taking a bath with candles, bath salts and music once a week. Try this for a few weeks and see how things change. Taking the time for a bath is a loving act and something we should all do for ourselves just to allow ourselves to regroup and feel whole as a woman. You may not need to continue at the rate of every week once you feel the change that it brings out it you. I know baths are not for everyone….showers are much quicker! Keep in mind that that is not the point. The point is to TAKE THE TIME and do something that is unlike you. You have, in the hustle and bustle of practical everyday life, lost touch with your inner self. You need to do something that is out of your comfort zone to find yourself again!

Okay – now I ask you – what are you wearing to bed every night? Take it as an assignment to wear something sexy to bed every night whether or not there is someone else to do it for or not. Do it for yourself! One sure-fire way to feel feminine is to wear something feminine. Do this every night and see how different you feel about yourself, how awakened you begin to feel as woman. Start with something mildly sexy or something more exciting than a big t-shirt and shorts. Wear a boy short, a camisole-set or baby doll then move on to more revealing lingerie like a thong or bodystocking! (All right – you may not be feeling that feminine yet!) If you do have a significant other in your life – they will appreciate it as well. It could spark some loving romance into your life!

Now look at your hands and toes. Are they manicured? Do you take the time to make them look nice? Whether you are the type who likes to paint your nails or get your nails done. Nothing says feminine like – sexy hands and feet! So take some time and keep them looking their best.

When was the last time you listened to that all-inspiring song by Shania Twain, “Man, I Feel Like a Woman!”? Maybe it is time to turn up the music and “dance like nobody is watching”. Release your energy and your emotions by dancing or exercising to uplifting music. It will help you feel more alive and energized and can really do the job of recharging your femininity (or at the very least, burn some calories).

What not to do:

The last thing you want to do is treat yourself to food. Food should never be used an award. In my years of coaching many women have confessed to me that they use food to nurture, to bury emotions or as an award for a hard day. If you have found yourself doing this – STOP! Use the tips I have given you to turn this horrible thigh building habit around. This is the opposite of feeling feminine. This is self destructive behavior that will only leave you feeling fat, not fulfilled.

In summary, if you treat yourself like a sexy, feminine woman and ACT more feminine you will begin to FEEL like a sexy, feminine woman and then you will begin to BE TREATED like a feminine, sexy woman! It doesn’t matter if you have the perfect body or the perfect face. What matters is what is happening on the inside and what you project on the outside. Let’s learn to be more feminine … more sensual in our everyday life!

Written by: D. Curley is the author of the LookandFeelSexy.com and owner of From the Heart Lingerie website.